…blessed & 30 birthday reflections!

First and for most, thank you so much for all of the sweet comments, texts, e-mails, and messages that you sent me for my birthday. You guys really know how to treat a girl right!


I was originally going to write a “30 things I learned before my 30th birthday” but my spirit just wasn’t feeling it. I was feeling a little more open, honest and reflective, so I hope you don’t mind a more personal post. I also meant to get this post up Monday, but I needed an extra day to “digest” the big 30.

Truth be told, I’m still wrapping my head around the fact, but hopefully getting my thoughts out will help me make sense of the nonsense swirling around in my head. So here we go…

I should probably start by saying that I am normally one to make a big fuss over birthdays. I am the person who celebrates a birthday all week. I buy my kids and husband gifts for every day leading up to the big day. Yes! I’m that person. But I will admit that 30 hit me pretty hard. Logically, I knew I wasn’t going to become a different person as soon as the clock struck 12 and the date changed from the 7th to the 8th, but there was something about 30 that made it feel like a big deal. Maybe I went through the same kind of thing transitioning from my teens to my twenties — I can’t remember.

In any case, the feeling first hit me around 8 PM on the night before the big day. It was this nervous anticipation mixed with a sort of panicked dread. On the one hand, I was really looking forward to turning 30… especially since I kept hearing so many people say that their 30’s have been some of their best years. On the other hand, I only had 4 more hours left in my 20’s before that chapter of my life would be closed for good. Like… what?!?

Another thing bothering me, I think, was the fact that I didn’t really didn’t have anything big planned for my birthday…well I did but due to hurricanes, we had to cancel our trip to Puerto Rico… and I guess I kind of felt like I should since 30 seemed like a big deal?

If I’m being completely honest here, my introverted self is just looking for a dark corner to hide in some peace and quiet, and a return to my normal routine. And that’s okay.

One of the things I love most about getting older is the fact that I feel so much more comfortable with who I really am. I spent a good chunk of my 20’s hiding my quirks and constantly trying to reconcile the person I was with the person I thought I should be. It was exhausting. But the older I get, the more I love and embrace those odd aspects of myself. I realize they may not appeal to everyone, but I no longer care. That’s not to say that I’m trying to become some loud-and-proud menace to society, but that I can finally truly see the futility in trying to impress anyone who can’t like me for who I am. I am walking in my truth.

As a reflected over my 20’s I realized…I became a mother. I became a wife. I became a believer. I became a home school mom. I launched a ministry “Style is Ministry”. I learned what success means for me. I learned how to forgive. I let go of the pass. I learned to worship. I forgave myself. I learned to love myself. I learned how to embrace all of me. I’ve turned my life’s test into my testimony. Not to bad when I sit back and reflect. I am very blessed!

So turning 30 had its ups and downs, just like life has its ups and downs. My plan is to keep taking things as they come and making the most of whatever situation I’m given to work with. I’ve come to realize that things have a way of happening when it’s time for them to happen, and that while we may not be able to control the circumstances, we can control the attitude we approach them with. I have a feeling this next decade is going to be a good one because I’ve chosen it to be that way. Does that mean I’ll never throw myself the occasional pity party? No. But I’ll be sure to wear waterproof mascara, lol.

so…Hello 30!


Church Style Tip Sunday 6/30


True story… today I went to church in this outfit you see in the picture. I woke up 30 minutes before having to leave the house for church. So I had to get myself and two children ready in 30 minutes😱(i.e. It was my husbands turn to wake everyone up today). So today’s #churchstyletip is all about “just being grateful to worship and not how you showed up”


Every time I am in the storm I know that I am going to come out stronger and wiser than when I went in.

Your testimony will help someone!

Everyone and anyone can Pray

I don’t have to go in depth on my thoughts on this. I’m going to let scripture speak for it self.

Philippians 4:6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.

John 15:7 If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you.

Mark 11:24 Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.

1 Thessalonians 5:17   “Pray without ceasing..”

Romans 8:26   Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groaning too deep for words.

Matthew 6:6 “But when you pray, go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.”

Matthew 6:7  “And when you pray, do not heap up empty phrases as the Gentiles do, for they think that they will be heard for their many words.”

Luke 11:9 “And I tell you, ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.”

Choose Faith

“But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarded of those who diligently seek Him” (Hebrew 11:6)

The Bible talks a lot about having faith and about people who had faith. In the world, you don’t often see much faith. In fact, some people are negative almost all the time.

In times like this, you’ve got to have faith. You got to be sure of “the substance of things hoped for” and to believe in what you cant see.

God gives people dreams and ideas;and most of the time they’ll seem bigger than your abilities and resources. He wants you to be absolutely confident that He can make it happen.

In whatever season you are in, just Choose Faith!

xo- Shay

Don’t look back, you aren’t going that way.

Philippians 3:13-16

“Don’t look back!” Paul writes in his letter to the Philippians, “Brethren, I do not consider that I have made it my own; but one thing I do, forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”
God’s word to us is, “Don’t look back!” Like the Apostle Paul we must forget “what lies behind and strain forward to what lies ahead.”
There is a natural, human tendency for us to look back. We have history books, yearbooks, photo albums, home movies and memories that allow us to look back.
And there can be great value in looking back. We look back to learn. We look back to affirm the places and faces and circumstances from whence we have come.

At the same time Paul tells us to “forget what lies behind.” But Paul is saying don’t look back in a way that will keep us from going forward. Don’t look back in a way that makes us prisoners of our past, because looking back in the wrong way enslaves us or enslaves others to past mistakes and sins. Looking back in the wrong way does not allow the healing of old hurts and painful memories.

Even looking back at past accomplishments and successes can keep us from discovering what lies ahead.

There’s no reason for us to remain enslaved to the mistakes and sins and shortcomings of our past. We don’t have to continually feel guilty and “second rate” because of something we did years ago or even yesterday.

So the advice that’s given to us is, “Don’t look back!”

xo Shay

God can turn your mess into a message!

The enemy uses our past to cause confusion and disorder in our lives.  He is the record keeper of the past. He torments us with feelings of shame, guilt, condemnation, and a host of other serious feelings. He loves to remind us of things we have happened to keep us from feeling deserving of God’s love and grace.

Until we remove that power from the past, the enemy can always use it to drive a wedge between us and God.

How about the actual past, that luggage we carry for years; the mistakes, scars, hurt, and betrayals.  We take it from relationship to relationship, or keep it buried somewhere deep down inside.  It’s the chains we often hear about.

When we look at the Bible we see God giving us story after story of hot messes, people who were murderers, adulterers, liars, thieves, cheaters, people that were full of mess and sin, and God not only forgave them but then used them for amazing purposes

The coolest part about my ugly mess is that it now offers a beginning to my amazing transformation; I am a walking testimony to the love, mercy, and grace of Jesus.

But if I fail to acknowledge the girl who was lost in the world seeking to fill voids with alcohol, drugs, and bad relationships; who took pride in fighting, and being angry, if I am too afraid of judgment to acknowledge that was my past, how can I give glory to Him for transforming me?

The most amazing part of all is that the more I boast in my weakness and glorify God for His grace and mercy, the less useful it becomes to the enemy.  Satan cannot torment me with a past I use as a testimony to glorify our King!

Being vulnerable is scary. Our sins may be different, but every Christian has a past. If Jesus Himself were to say today as He did back then, “let he without sin cast the first stone“, not a single soul could even pick up a shadow of a pebble.

If there are pieces of your past that you cannot let go, maybe it is because God is pushing you to turn your mess into your message. I am still working on this till this day!

Be Blessed

xo- Shay